Soul Reflections: Experiencing Inner Peace

Inner Peace! Isn’t that what we’d all love to experience consistently as we weave our paths through everything life gives us? The good news is it is far simpler to attain than many of our outer (material or physical) goals or manifestations. The bad news is that simple isn’t easy! Attaining inner peace is not easy because it means replacing old habits with new ones, and that requires dedication, commitment and consistency. But the benefits are absolutely worth the effort.

Inner peace gives you the ability to live your life with a sense of happiness, satisfaction and fulfilment which is not disturbed or influenced by outside events.

How do you acquire it? By living your life your own way, not how others think you should. By not worrying about what others think of you – we all judge others (both positively and negatively) according to our own values, but if we try to live our lives in a way that honours another soul’s values rather than our own, we’ll always have a little gnawing discomfort going on deep inside.
To experience inner peace, we should practice forgiveness and letting go of guilt. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Feeling guilty about past actions won’t change them and won’t make anybody feel any better (either you or the soul whom you’ve hurt). Do what you can to make things amends, resolve to do better in the future, and move on. That is really the only thing you can do.
Likewise, letting go of anger or grudges will bring about a surprising sense of peace. Think about it:

How does holding onto these negative emotions help you? And do you think your emotions hurt those who have hurt you?

Not at all. They are YOUR emotions and you are the only soul who they can harm. Of course, it can be very difficult to forgive a soul who’s hurt you. However, what I’ve come to realize is that most souls don’t maliciously set out to hurt others, and those who do are deeply unhappy themselves. The motivation and intention behind their action was probably fear, rather than deliberately wanting to cause hurt or cause you pain. And in that context, it’s easier to let it go.
And with a little bit of practice at forgiveness, you may even find yourself getting less annoyed or angry with souls in future. When you can shrug things off and not take things personally (it’s really about them, and not you at all), you’ll have a greater sense of inner peace.

Our happiness is determined by how we think about the events in our lives, rather than by the events themselves.

Take charge of your thoughts and you take charge of your emotions. To achieve inner peace, you also need to let go of worry. Hmm, another tricky one! Worry is similar to guilt. Worrying about what might or might not happen is completely unproductive, and totally destroys your ability to enjoy the present moment. A great shame that, as the present moment is all we really have.
How do we learn to let go of worries, guilt and anger? Well, the first thing is to become consciously aware of what we’re thinking whenever we feel worried, guilty or angry. Notice what’s going on in your inner dialogue, and acknowledge that it’s your thoughts about the external event that’s causing you to feel the way you do, and not the event itself. Afterwards, reframe your thoughts to reflect on what’s going on around you in a more positive light. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about an old thought, banish it immediately, and replace it with the new one.

“No one can create negativity or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.” - Dr. Wayne Dyer

This will take a lot of practice but with patience and persistence, you will develop a healthy and positive inner dialogue that promotes a feeling of well-being and inner peace. As a result, the world will feel like a far better place to live in because you will be projecting your internal reality onto the external world.

Soul Reflections: Different, but the Same

Something I don’t really talk about is that I don’t talk to a lot of my family. I stopped speaking to my father and my father’s side of the family when I was asked to ignore my pain and my trauma to make them comfortable. I would have been 19/20 years old when I made this decision. I stopped speaking to my mother’s side of the family when I felt like the responsibility of being from a Christian family was taking up too much space for me to find my own way. I was 16 years old when I made this choice, and 19 years old when I started adjusting my boundaries for certain family members.
Now, this is a very concise and generalized description of several life-changing years of my life. Really what I’m getting at is that we all choose different ways to discover ourselves, our own sense of agency. I’ve noticed that my tendency is to flee. To remove myself from any and all things that hinder my growth, that ask me to be small, that require me to be a fragment of my soul’s reflection.
Since the passing of Taime, family has been a reoccurring theme for me. At the Celebration of Life, I was reunited and reconnected with family members, who I haven’t seen in over 7 years. I wondered what I would do if we reconnected. But honestly, I never really thought it would happen. I couldn’t have imagined that the reason for all of us to be together, under one roof would be to celebrate Taime’s 22 years of life.
We exchange numbers and got reacquainted. However, what I wasn’t expecting were the follow-up messages that came in the weeks to follow. Accountability and follow-through haven’t really been a strong suit for my family tree. So, when I was invited for a girl’s night with my aunts and cousins. I decided to take a leap of faith and go.
I enjoyed myself until – I didn’t. To be honest, it was no fault of their own. My family is loud and robust. It’s a lot of energy for me to filter in a small space and with so many of us. I’ve always felt being in large group settings overwhelming, but it’s definitely harder when it’s my family. Now, thanks to my knowledge through my spiritual journey, I understand why. There is an added sense of responsibility because of social identities I couldn’t care for. It’s all the expectations and the need to belong, while knowing in my Soul that I never truly will.
I have more agency than I ever have. In the past, when I was emotionally overwhelmed or taking on all of the various energies of my family, I would have to stay. To do what I was told because I was a child. This time around, I had the agency to leave, and I left. I ordered myself an Uber and thanked them for a nice time. Then, I informed them that I was heading home. The important part of that sentence is informed. I told them what I was doing, instead of having to ask for permission.
In the past, I would have thrown on a smile because people-pleasing would be easier than explaining the discomfort. This time around, I openly went outside to smoke a joint because I needed to decompress and cry about the loss of my sister in peace. This time around, I left when it was all becoming too much because I remembered I had the power to do so. Feeling powerful in a situation that would have rendered me powerless before was different. It reminded me how much things really DO and HAVE changed.
As I enter this new phase of life, as I mentally prepare to leave Ontario in September, the province that has been my home for over 27 years. I’m starting to see how my guides are bringing me back to similar moments and feelings I’ve experienced in the past. Only to show me how different things really are, how much I have and will always be fully me.

My family is who they always were. Now, I am who I was always meant to be.

It means we have a choice, we either accept each other for who we are, we tolerate each other with feelings of resentment and anger, or we simply let go of the relationship we thought we needed to have. Our life experiences have shown us that 7 years apart didn’t waver our unconditional love for each other. However, now, I have unconditional love for myself. So I can accept their love openly knowing it no longer defines me. Knowing I no longer NEED it to feel seen, validated or loved. The real change is me.

Soul Reflections: Change, Growth & Introducing Affiliated Souls

Grand Rising Synchronized Souls,
Woah, it’s been a year. As we start the Astrological New Year, I thought it would be nice to look back with gratitude. Those who have been in this space may wonder how I can do so considering the ups and downs I’ve experienced, but that’s just the Soul I am.
This time last year, I was unexpectedly getting ready to meet a soul that would change my life, in ways I couldn’t have anticipated at the time. I was getting ready to meet my ex and get into a new relationship. I was head over heels in love and riding the wave. The confidence from that relationship gave me even MORE confidence to leave Indeed because I felt so supported. By June, I went into my heart-centered business fullt-time. I started my full-time soulpreneurship journey and all was looking good, until I was psychically attacked through my business near the end of June and throughout the month of July. This just so happens to be around the time that my relationship unexpectedly ended. After taking some time to grieve, I came back stronger than ever in August like a Phoneix rising from the ashes. I went to my first photoshoot as a MODEL and I decided to chase a lifelong dream and moved to Mexico for the duration of the winter.
Oh so was the plan, until I got a call from my mother on my birthday telling me that my sister, Jet’aime, passed away. I’ve experienced a lot of grief in my life, but this pain is something I cannot even attempt to explain. I still cry, I am crying, as I write this, because I still have so much to move through within my grief story. As I create new boundaries to support this version of who I am.

This version of myself, who is trying to act as if because I've been reminded, yet again in my life, that time is something that not all of us have.

I’m sure I will still get very upset about the experiences Taime will now not get to experience in this lifetime as a human. And yes, because of my beliefs I know she’s here. But as we know, knowing something and accepting something are two very different things. She had so many dreams, she was only 22. I’ve realized as I reflect on my year that her dreams, were the dreams I used to dream. Things I secretly wished for but thought I was too fucked up to have. I know that I’ll be grieving for a while. I know that I’ll be triggered constantly, especially as the trial continues to unfold over the next year and a half. I know that this grief journey is for life. However, I’m starting to shift into the mindset where I want to maintain the vibration my sister used to in this world. She was constantly going out of her way to help others, she was always volunteering, always giving back. I want to help her let of her attachments to this world with peace.

Knowing that I will accomplish the things I never thought I could, but she always wanted to. Not only for her, but for me.

Grief gives us perspective and the more pain I alchemize as my journey unfolds, the more I see the rarity of it, of the resilience, of the determination, of the success, of the abundance. Now that I can see it, I appreciate how worthy and rare my soul gifts are. I’m realizing WHO I can help and HOW I can help, and the clarity is allowing to me expand on a BIG scale. I’m no longer playing it small. I don’t want fame and fortune, I don’t want to be known. That’s not and will never be our motivation. The Scorpio in me is so strong. But I do want to help the souls I know have been waiting for ME, for MY medicine. And I’m starting to ground myself in this reality. The more I do, the more I see that the soul’s purpose I’ve been given is BIG and it’s been written in the stars. It’s time I accept it.
As I do so and intentionally think of ways I can help, I can also see how it all connects. I was very intentional when putting together my Becoming a Successful Soulpreneurs – Group Coaching Certification Program. Intentionally using my Divine Feminine & Masculine energies allowed me to fill my cup and have it runneth over. The intentionally allowed me to hit a financial business intention, I’ve had for 2 years, a five-figure month. I celebrate a $16,000 month from ONE stream of income. The best part was – I provided $2222 in total discounts to help several coaching soul clients. Additionally, because I took care of myself, I was able to help provide a full scholarship to a soul who I KNEW was ready to do the work, but couldn’t make the financial investment yet.
The excitement and fulfilment I feel while hosting this Group Coaching Program reminds me that the transformation I’ve grown through was to get here. As I continue to niche down, I don’t want the souls in this Synchronized Souls Community to feel as if I’m not looking for ways to bridge the gap and continue to add value as I grow.
As I pour more of my attention into Group Coaching & Mentoring, I’m letting go of 1:1 Soul Synchronization Coaching and introducing y’all to a REALLY GOOD friend and AMAZING 1:1 Spiritual Mentor – Sydney Smith, the CEO of Adventuring with Poseidon. She is who I would recommend if you’re looking for 1:1 Mentoring services. Similarly to me, she is a Shadow Worker who goes deep, but her energy is very different than mine. I believe she will be an extremely beneficial resource for you all. Sydney Smith is our first to join Affiliated Souls.

Souls who are affiliated with Synchronized Souls Inc. brand through their own heart-centered businesses. These are the souls who spiritual and mindful services or products I HIGHLY recommend. These are souls who currently offer services or products that are not within my current bandwidth or simply outside my area of expertise or niche.

I rebranded on March 1, 2021 from Synchronized Soul to Synchronized Souls Inc. to incorporate all of the souls who are synchronizing their Souls. All the souls who have their own soul’s mission and purpose in their timelines and spaces. I wasn’t entirely sure HOW when I was doing it, but I knew it was a necessary nudge of Divine Knowledge and I wanted to take action upon it. As I expand, a year later, I’m starting to understand why – this space is for community and connection. I want y’all to know that I will ALWAYS be thinking about how I can add value to this community, to your’s soul’s journey, even if it’s not by working with me. We are about community not competition in this space. Affiliated Souls is just another example of how I will always lead by example. Integrity embodied in action. More Affiliated Souls to come…
Sydney will be introducing herself in the Synchronized Souls Space with a two-part blog series with the first one coming out next Sunday. I’m so looking forward to hearing y’all thoughts about the transformation that is happening in this space.

With Divine Motives,
CEO of Synchronized Souls Inc.
Ashantè Fray