Teachings from Tarot: Lessons for June – Loss, Release & Grief

Teaching from Tarot: Lessons for June - Loss, Release & Grief

Crying over spilled milk. This is the first thing that comes to mind when I see the Five of Cups, it’s the first thing that comes to mind every time I see this card. This overwhelming feeling that things aren’t and haven’t turned out the way we expected. Isn’t that the understatement of the year?

Last year was Universal Year of the 5, and the theme was expect the unexpected. I only mention this to say that it feels like many souls are still throwing themselves pity parties based on how their lives have changed last year. As we enter the 6 month of the year, as the Universal Year of 6 continues to unfold. Remember, The Tower moments from last year were to help you be better grounded in your Soul. They were to help you synchronize with your Soul, so you could/can make choices based on your values and your needs. However, that means accepting the depths of your pain. This means being radically honest with yourself, so you can attract the things you do want, not the things you do not want.

If you spent the first half of the year, attached to the loss, grief and disappointment you’ve experienced in the past, the month of June is going to ask you – Is that all you want to experience in the future? As channelled in the 2022 Soulscope Guidebook from our Soul Guides in December 2021. [Currently on sale for $47.77] 

"In order to move forward with your life, you must accept it all and let go of it all. Learn to detach." - 2022 Soulscope Guidebook

You have the ability to disengage, to disconnect, to detach from the past. Your old wounds and bitter memories have been intentionally triggered a lot during the first half of this year. This was to help you feel your feelings to release them. It wasn’t to attach to them, to continue to reinforce this limiting belief that you aren’t enough, not worthy or the victim of circumstances. There is a lot of forgiveness that is needed right now. To forgive yourself, others, and The Universe for the pain you’ve experienced. As stated in our most recent eBook: [Currently on sale for $27.27]: 

"Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. It's just a simple release of anger or resentment." - The Power of Self-Reflection & Forgiveness  

You have the chance to gain wisdom for the present from the mistakes of the past. You have the opportunity to start something new, to feel new feelings. This call to move forward with more synchronization is dependent on you releasing the past. It’s dependent on your understanding of your soul’s journey, to accept your soul’s gifts, and to move forward with confidence. Honestly, it sounds like the perfect time to really think about how you can be open to experiencing the brighter side of life. It’s time to integrate your Shadow and Light to experience the abundance and blessings you’ve been asking for. If you truly want to grow: 

“You must accept all of the times you’ve been let down, all of the times you felt discontent, and all of the times you’ve mourned potential timelines and outcomes. You are being given the opportunity to gain more than you’ve been given, but first, you must grieve.” 2022 Soulscope Guidebook

It’s time for your to accept your Lightworker’s Journey, to alchemize grief, Shadow and loss into Light. [Use coupon code SHADOW to save $555 OFF! Code expires May 31.] Everything you’ve experienced has been to help you integrate into a timeline of your highest good. No matter what you’ve experienced in life, you have the opportunity NOW to feel experience life differently. As always, the choice to integrate is yours, but we hope this was the push you needed to start the process. 

Soul Reflections: Experiencing Inner Peace

Inner Peace! Isn’t that what we’d all love to experience consistently as we weave our paths through everything life gives us? The good news is it is far simpler to attain than many of our outer (material or physical) goals or manifestations. The bad news is that simple isn’t easy! Attaining inner peace is not easy because it means replacing old habits with new ones, and that requires dedication, commitment and consistency. But the benefits are absolutely worth the effort.

Inner peace gives you the ability to live your life with a sense of happiness, satisfaction and fulfilment which is not disturbed or influenced by outside events.

How do you acquire it? By living your life your own way, not how others think you should. By not worrying about what others think of you – we all judge others (both positively and negatively) according to our own values, but if we try to live our lives in a way that honours another soul’s values rather than our own, we’ll always have a little gnawing discomfort going on deep inside.
To experience inner peace, we should practice forgiveness and letting go of guilt. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Feeling guilty about past actions won’t change them and won’t make anybody feel any better (either you or the soul whom you’ve hurt). Do what you can to make things amends, resolve to do better in the future, and move on. That is really the only thing you can do.
Likewise, letting go of anger or grudges will bring about a surprising sense of peace. Think about it:

How does holding onto these negative emotions help you? And do you think your emotions hurt those who have hurt you?

Not at all. They are YOUR emotions and you are the only soul who they can harm. Of course, it can be very difficult to forgive a soul who’s hurt you. However, what I’ve come to realize is that most souls don’t maliciously set out to hurt others, and those who do are deeply unhappy themselves. The motivation and intention behind their action was probably fear, rather than deliberately wanting to cause hurt or cause you pain. And in that context, it’s easier to let it go.
And with a little bit of practice at forgiveness, you may even find yourself getting less annoyed or angry with souls in future. When you can shrug things off and not take things personally (it’s really about them, and not you at all), you’ll have a greater sense of inner peace.

Our happiness is determined by how we think about the events in our lives, rather than by the events themselves.

Take charge of your thoughts and you take charge of your emotions. To achieve inner peace, you also need to let go of worry. Hmm, another tricky one! Worry is similar to guilt. Worrying about what might or might not happen is completely unproductive, and totally destroys your ability to enjoy the present moment. A great shame that, as the present moment is all we really have.
How do we learn to let go of worries, guilt and anger? Well, the first thing is to become consciously aware of what we’re thinking whenever we feel worried, guilty or angry. Notice what’s going on in your inner dialogue, and acknowledge that it’s your thoughts about the external event that’s causing you to feel the way you do, and not the event itself. Afterwards, reframe your thoughts to reflect on what’s going on around you in a more positive light. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about an old thought, banish it immediately, and replace it with the new one.

“No one can create negativity or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.” - Dr. Wayne Dyer

This will take a lot of practice but with patience and persistence, you will develop a healthy and positive inner dialogue that promotes a feeling of well-being and inner peace. As a result, the world will feel like a far better place to live in because you will be projecting your internal reality onto the external world.

Soul Reflections: Different, but the Same

Something I don’t really talk about is that I don’t talk to a lot of my family. I stopped speaking to my father and my father’s side of the family when I was asked to ignore my pain and my trauma to make them comfortable. I would have been 19/20 years old when I made this decision. I stopped speaking to my mother’s side of the family when I felt like the responsibility of being from a Christian family was taking up too much space for me to find my own way. I was 16 years old when I made this choice, and 19 years old when I started adjusting my boundaries for certain family members.
Now, this is a very concise and generalized description of several life-changing years of my life. Really what I’m getting at is that we all choose different ways to discover ourselves, our own sense of agency. I’ve noticed that my tendency is to flee. To remove myself from any and all things that hinder my growth, that ask me to be small, that require me to be a fragment of my soul’s reflection.
Since the passing of Taime, family has been a reoccurring theme for me. At the Celebration of Life, I was reunited and reconnected with family members, who I haven’t seen in over 7 years. I wondered what I would do if we reconnected. But honestly, I never really thought it would happen. I couldn’t have imagined that the reason for all of us to be together, under one roof would be to celebrate Taime’s 22 years of life.
We exchange numbers and got reacquainted. However, what I wasn’t expecting were the follow-up messages that came in the weeks to follow. Accountability and follow-through haven’t really been a strong suit for my family tree. So, when I was invited for a girl’s night with my aunts and cousins. I decided to take a leap of faith and go.
I enjoyed myself until – I didn’t. To be honest, it was no fault of their own. My family is loud and robust. It’s a lot of energy for me to filter in a small space and with so many of us. I’ve always felt being in large group settings overwhelming, but it’s definitely harder when it’s my family. Now, thanks to my knowledge through my spiritual journey, I understand why. There is an added sense of responsibility because of social identities I couldn’t care for. It’s all the expectations and the need to belong, while knowing in my Soul that I never truly will.
I have more agency than I ever have. In the past, when I was emotionally overwhelmed or taking on all of the various energies of my family, I would have to stay. To do what I was told because I was a child. This time around, I had the agency to leave, and I left. I ordered myself an Uber and thanked them for a nice time. Then, I informed them that I was heading home. The important part of that sentence is informed. I told them what I was doing, instead of having to ask for permission.
In the past, I would have thrown on a smile because people-pleasing would be easier than explaining the discomfort. This time around, I openly went outside to smoke a joint because I needed to decompress and cry about the loss of my sister in peace. This time around, I left when it was all becoming too much because I remembered I had the power to do so. Feeling powerful in a situation that would have rendered me powerless before was different. It reminded me how much things really DO and HAVE changed.
As I enter this new phase of life, as I mentally prepare to leave Ontario in September, the province that has been my home for over 27 years. I’m starting to see how my guides are bringing me back to similar moments and feelings I’ve experienced in the past. Only to show me how different things really are, how much I have and will always be fully me.

My family is who they always were. Now, I am who I was always meant to be.

It means we have a choice, we either accept each other for who we are, we tolerate each other with feelings of resentment and anger, or we simply let go of the relationship we thought we needed to have. Our life experiences have shown us that 7 years apart didn’t waver our unconditional love for each other. However, now, I have unconditional love for myself. So I can accept their love openly knowing it no longer defines me. Knowing I no longer NEED it to feel seen, validated or loved. The real change is me.